Aunt caught me having sex with her boyfriend

Dear Pastor,

I am 22 and I was living with my aunt from I was 13, after my mother died. My aunt took me in, but my two brothers were left with my dad. My aunt was a higgler. I can say that she was very good to me. But there were times when I was left alone. I became sexually active when I was 16. I became very bad. I used to have sex with some of my schoolmates. One day my aunt asked me if I was having sex and I told her no. She said that people told her that I had boys coming to the house when she was not there. My aunt told me that I should tell her the truth because she would find out by taking me to the doctor. I told her that if anybody told her that I had guys coming to the house, it was because they didn't love me. I convinced my aunt that I was talking the truth and that was the end of the story.

My aunt developed a friendship with a man. He used to take her to where she was selling. That man and I became good friends. My aunt cursed him one day over some money that he borrowed from her but was not repaying. Another man started to come around and he and I became friends. One night, he and my aunt were in bed and I don't know what got into him, but he came over to my room. I was half-asleep, and he started to play with me and I yielded myself to him. My aunt woke up and saw him having sex with me. My aunt started to beat him with her cutlass. Then she warned him that she would kill him, because I told her that he was raping me. But he told her that I gave in to him willingly.

At one point his bottom started to bleed. I got scared and tried to go through the door to call the neighbour, but my aunt pulled me back inside and said that if I opened my mouth, she was going to kill me. This man did not report my aunt to the police. He was too ashamed to tell the police that my aunt beat him. My aunt told me that I could not stay at her house any more and she also told the man that he couldn't expect to go to bed with her and her niece, so he should find a place and put me. I begged my aunt not to put me out because I did not want to go back to my father's house. I eventually ran away and was living on the streets, until I met a man who told me that he liked me and we became friends. We are still together.

The man who had sex with me in my aunt's house is still in touch with me. He calls me when he doesn't have any money, and I help him. I could have got that man killed. I should not have allowed him to have sex with me. I have learnt my lesson. The man I am living with runs a little business, and I assist him. I am doing a course at HEART/NSTA Trust. I am also trying to be a Christian.

V.U.

Dear V.U.,

You did not want anything good for yourself. Your aunt took you to live with her after the death of your mother.

You did not have to be promiscuous, but you developed a reputation that you were easy to get, so every Tom, Dick and Harry wanted to sample you. Your aunt did not set a good example for you while you were living with her. But you went to the extreme by allowing her man to come into your room and into your bed while your aunt was in the house. You could have made an alarm and your aunt would have believed you, but instead you consented to having sex with this man. Your aunt gave him a proper beating; she could have got herself into trouble. She used a cutlass to beat him and he did not report her to the police.

You as a girl should not be trusted by anybody; and this man who had sex with you shouldn't be trusted, either. You are a bad girl, but I hope you will do well in class and learn to support yourself in the field that you have chosen.

Pastor