Not sure why this guy is avoiding me

Dear Pastor,

I am 27 years old and I am living at home with my parents. I have a sister and she is 24 years old. She got married recently.

I thought that she was very fortunate because people used to tell me that I am prettier than her. This sister and I get along very well but she was a little promiscuous.

She told me that she lost her virginity on her first date. I have gone on dates but I don't allow my dates to take liberty with me. I can't imagine myself having sex on my first date. I have never told anybody that my sister had sex with her date the first evening they went out. She was very lucky, because she had unprotected sex.

I am now involved with a man. We are in the courtship stage of our relationship. He behaves as a real gentleman. I am not sure that I love him enough to marry him. I know that I care for him and I know also that I would love to have my first child before I am 30 years old. So time is slipping away from me. I have not heard from him for a month and, when I called him, he said that he was so busy. He is in medical school. Do you think that he is seeing another woman? He said he is not, but he told me thanks for calling him. I invited him over for dinner and, after dinner, he spent most of the time playing dominoes with my father. My father loves dominoes. He gave my boyfriend six-love twice. My father is encouraging me to have him come back more often.

What I want to find out from you is: should I invite him back? Would he consider my invitation as if I am chasing after him? Shouldn't he be the one chasing me? I am not seeking anything from him. I cannot say that I know him very well. We have not had sex or anything like that. I would also like to say that he was not born in Jamaica, and, if we were to get married and he doesn't want to stay in Jamaica, I would have to agree to live in his country or wherever he wants to live. I would love to hear from you. Please bear in mind that I would love to have children too.

J.E.

Dear J.E.,

You took the initiative to invite this young man to your home. Nothing is wrong with that.

Your parents, especially your dad, enjoyed playing dominoes with him. You should not hesitate to invite him again. Just inform your father that you would love to have time with this man whenever he is visiting. Your father will understand. You are not doing anything wrong, so please do not believe that you are. I wish you well.

Pastor