Women keep trying to get my money

Dear Pastor,

I am a senior citizen and I am enjoying being older. I am alone, but I am enjoying life.

My wife of 51 years passed on and I miss her dearly, but I will never marry again. No one can replace my dear wife. My children are all gone; there are four of them and they all live in America. They talk to me every day. I love my children. Some of them, especially the girls, told me that if I can do without getting married again, I should not remarry. I told them that I am alright.

I see lovely women and they come around and hug me and tell me how nice I look and I tell them thanks, but I don't want them - none of them. I know that they want to get in my pocket, but I watch my pocket all the time. One of them is a doctor and she is always inviting me out and telling me that I am not too old to see her. I told her that I don't know how to do that.

Pastor, my children are trying to tell me to pack up and come to live with them in America, but I love my Jamaica, I love everything about Jamaica. I don't want to leave here. I have a daughter who her mother registered in another man's name. She and I used to fool around and so she did not want the man to know that I got her pregnant, so the child was registered in his name. She comes to see me often and I told my other children that she is mine and they have accepted her as their sister. She resembles me and any favour I want, she jumps around and gets it for me. Recently I bought her a car and she was the happiest girl when she got the keys. I have included her in my will, but that is all I can do for her right now. She is not married, but she is doing well. She is a teacher, and a lovely girl. I hope she will be able to find a good man.

I told her that the others want me to leave Jamaica but she said I should not. She does not have children. All of my children that I had with my wife have children, so I am a grandfather of seven. Sometimes I say to myself that I should not have bought a car for this daughter who does not have my name - I should have bought her a house. But she persuaded me to buy a car.

Pastor, I made a mistake when I got her mother pregnant, but she was wise enough not to call my name. So her boyfriend didn't have a clue that it was not his child. Please drop me a line when you can and I will continue to read your column and listen to you on the radio. You are doing a marvellous job.

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Dear Writer,

I am glad you have a good family and you are enjoying life. You have many friends who are seeing to it that your needs are met.

Women are not worried about how old men are. It seems to me that the older a man becomes, the more precious he is to certain women. Even this doctor still finds you very attractive and teases you all the time. Don't be carried away by what she says. Continue to watch your pocket. I don't need to tell you that you should be careful with your money. It is not the sex that this doctor wants from you; she doesn't mind getting some of your money.

Concerning your daughter who you bought a car; you haven't done anything wrong. She wanted a vehicle to be able to move around. You will benefit from this car also. I wish you well. Keep in touch with me.

Pastor