Boyfriend’s brother tried to sleep with me

Dear Pastor,

I am 40 and I have been living with a man for the past four years. I am helping to take care of his mother, who was not well.

Before his father died, he gave him a two-bedroom house that is very close to the main house. His father told him that no one should disturb him there and he was going to put it in his will. This man had two other sons who were living in America. They say that my man is not his true son, but their father accepted him.

When his father became ill, he took care of him. The other sons sent money to help to pay doctor bills. His mother and I got along so well; she was really a saint. Even when she was not feeling well, we had to take her to her church. After the funeral, one of his sons told us that he was going to return to Jamaica to live. A couple of months ago, he came back because he wanted to do some work on the main house. He asked me to cook for him sometimes. He loves fish, so he went out and purchased fish and asked me to prepare it. Then I saw that he was becoming very friendly and telling me that he was jealous of my boyfriend. I told him he should not be jealous of his brother, he should be happy that his brother has found a good woman.

One day I was wearing shorts and this man told me how much he had been admiring me and he would like to go to bed with me. I told him I cannot go to bed with my boyfriend's brother. He said nothing is wrong if we go to bed because my man is not really his brother, and his parents knew that. His father confessed that he had a one-night stand with my boyfriend's mother. So from that time, he started to support my boyfriend, then his children's mother finally told him to bring the child. My boyfriend's mother sent him, and so all the children grew up together. But this brother from America insisted they were not blood brothers, so he said nothing would be wrong if we had sex. I was so shocked, I could not believe what I was hearing.

When my boyfriend came home, I told him what his brother said and he was furious. He went straight to him and told him he is a nasty, good-for-nothing man. He told my boyfriend that he better be quiet because he can get him out of this place. Now suddenly, the will that his father made cannot be found and my boyfriend is very worried. My boyfriend has told me not to cook or do anything for his brother. Sometimes when I know he is around, I am nervous. I don't want to be alone with him.

My sister comes and stays with me sometimes. I wish this man would just disappear. What should I do? I am not working, and the little we had saved was used up to do some work on our house. My boyfriend spoke to his other brother who is still in the States, who told him that no one can put him out of the house. He accepts him as a brother. My boyfriend also told him that this matter started because I refused to have sex with him. He called him, but he denied everything, so I am seen as a liar.

R.M.

Dear R.M.,

I am wondering where the will is. How come it cannot be found? Unless it was destroyed, it is somewhere.

It is unfortunate that he did not get a copy. I am hoping that he knows the executor of the will. I am not a lawyer, so I cannot give legal advice. But I can encourage him to seek the help of an attorney and to do so as soon as possible.

You do not need to fear anything. You should remain firm in your position. And please obey your man. Do not grant any favour whatsoever to his brother. No more cooking his favourite meal or anything he may ask you to do. He is a dirty fellow. If you had agreed to go to bed with him, he would look at you as trash. Keep out of his way. I am glad that his brother is standing firm and has assured your boyfriend that no one can run him off the property.

Nevertheless, this matter should be put in the hands of an attorney. So, although right now your boyfriend is out of money, he needs to see an attorney as early as possible.

Pastor