Afraid that my fiancé’s penis is too huge

Dear Pastor,

I am a 20-year-old girl and I do not have any experience when it comes to sex.

I have never had sex, but now I have a boyfriend. He is 19 and he is pestering me for sex. I really love him, but he said I should prove my love to him by having sex with him. This guy and I went to the beach and when he was changing, I saw his penis and it is very large. I don't think that I can deal with that and I told him so. He told me that his penis is not large; I should see the size of his brother's penis. He said in his family, all the men have large penises.

I told one of my friends how scared I am to have sex with this guy and she told me that I should not be afraid because most girls want a man who can satisfy them, and the size of a man's penis is important. We are getting engaged very soon. My boyfriend wants us to get married on New Year's Day, so he wants us to have sex during Christmas Eve as his Christmas present. That is all he wants from me for Christmas - sex.

Can a doctor reduce the size of a man's penis? I would like his size to be reduced. I will be looking in THE STAR for your answer.

B.C.

Dear B.C.,

You have made an unusual request. Most people write to me and ask how men can increase the size of their penises.

Now you are so afraid of your boyfriend's size. You want to know whether it is possible to get his size decreased. I understand what you are saying. You are not even married yet to this man, but you are desperately afraid that his size would hurt you. I can only say that I don't think you should worry. I feel everything is going to be all right.

I would also suggest that you talk to your mother about your concern. Perhaps such a conversation might be difficult for you, but your mother understands that you are a big girl now and you are going to be married, so no conversation should be limited between mother and daughter. You can't listen to girlfriends. They may lead you a stray, but you can listen to your loving mother.

I once counselled a girl who is a nurse. She was already sexually active and she had sex with a number of men. She told me that she loved men who had a pretty big penises because she wanted to feel as if something was inside of her. So perhaps what your friends wanted to say to you, was that when the time comes for your husband and you to have sex, you will enjoy that thing inside of you. So talk to your mother, you hear.

I wish both this man and you a happy marriage and a wonderful family life.

Pastor