Late husband’s friend wanted to sleep with me

Dear Pastor,

I am a 75-year-old woman and I always buy THE STAR to read your column.

One of my grandsons is living with me and he knows that I love to read your column, so he buys the newspaper and brings it home for me. Sometimes I laugh when I read your answers and I say to myself, "Pastor is not easy."

My husband used to read your column also, but he passed on nine years ago. He had many friends, and some used to come around. But I stopped encouraging them from coming because some of them passed their place. One of them was a taxi driver. I used to call him whenever I wanted to go out. One day he called me and asked me if I did not want any male company. I told him that I had my grandson living with me. He told me that he knew that, but that is not what he meant. So I told my grandson what he said. My grandson called him and told him that he doesn't have any respect, so he should not come back to my house.

Another man asked me to lend him $200,000, and I told him that my money is tied up so he should go to the bank and borrow that money. The man started to curse me. These men don't have any ambition and they think that because I am old, I don't have any sense. My grandson is 20. I told him that he should try and find a nice girl and get married.

I intend to pass on this house to him. His mother doesn't live in Jamaica, but she visits me once a year. I am in good health. I go to church every Sunday. If I don't get to church, my priest checks up on me. These men would look at an old woman like me and want me to have sex with them.

A.S.

Dear A.S.,

I am glad to hear from you. You are blessed. I say you are blessed because you are in good health, you are living in your own home, and you are happy. You read THE STAR and appreciate what you have read. Your grandson loves you and he is able to give you some amount of protection.

This taxi man who used to take you around when you needed transportation was a very silly man. I do not believe that it is just sex that he wanted from you. He wanted to be able to spend your money also. He thought that he could be nice to you and fool you, and that you would have been so carried away by his sweet talk that you would give him your money. I am glad that you chased him away. I am also glad that your grandson called him and told him not to come back to your place.

Your grandson is only 20 years old. You have been telling him that you would like to see him get married. But don't give him the impression that you are rushing him into marriage, because he is very young. I hope you have made a will. If you have not done so, please talk to your priest and ask him to suggest who can assist you in making one. Perhaps he will be able to do so. But before you sign that will, have an attorney look at it, because you want to have everything properly done. Take good care of yourself, and let me hear from you again.

Pastor