Women trying to steal my husband

Dear Pastor,

I am writing to you from the United States of America. I have been a listener to your radio programme from the time you started. I grew up reading your column, Tell Me Pastor, in THE STAR. You have been helpful to people.

I got married when I was 20. My husband was 23 years old at the time. We had to rush our wedding, because he got me pregnant and we did not want our child to be born outside of wedlock. My father told me that he would stand with me and he would take care of the expenses, whether or not I got married before the child was born.

My mother was not happy about the position that my father took. She said that it would embarrass her if I did not get married before the child was born because she was a member of the church choir and also an evangelist. So, she asked my two aunts, who were her sisters, to help me purchase a wedding dress. They purchased the dress and sent it to me in Jamaica.

My boyfriend bought me a lovely ring and we got married. Only my immediate family members knew I was pregnant. My father gave us a goat and we had chicken, which became the protein sources for the meal at our wedding reception. The event was held at our home. I went to counselling twice. My pastor was not a marriage officer, so the overseer of the denomination officiated at the wedding. Soon after our wedding, my husband and I left Jamaica. We have been living in the United States of America since.

My husband stopped attending church. He said that too many of the pastors in America are in it for the money. However, I have continued to attend church and we have three children together. My husband is very handsome. My friends in the USA are always telling me how much they love him. There was a rumour going around that he was having a relationship with one of them. However, he denied it and I don't see why he would leave me and go to her, because I am more attractive than her. But one of my friends said to me that when a man wants to go with a woman, it doesn't make any difference whether or not she is good-looking.

I have remained true to my husband. I love him because I know he loves me, and he is a very good provider. He is always with the children. He is active in sports. He is giving these children what we never had. They play instruments. I have to keep my eyes on him because some of these girls will take him away from me. One of them asked me if he is good in bed and I told her that was not a question she should ask me about my husband. She said she was only curious because he is very sexy and she likes the way he walks.

When can we call you on the telephone? I need to talk to you. Both of us would like to have a talk with you.

O.L.

Dear O.L.,

Please do not allow what these women say to you to disturb you; women will always love men, especially when they see that these men are good providers. You should never discuss your husband with your friends, because their partners might not be good. Therefore, they may become jealous and might want to establish relationships with him. They may even lie on him by telling you that they have gone to bed with him. Some women have done so many times.

I am glad that your husband is a good provider and that he spends time with his children. You cannot watch your husband 24/7, but you should make sure that you give him lots of "Stay home".

If he is satisfied with you and you treat him well, it is unlikely that he will leave you or go astray. I hope that he will return to church very soon.

You can always call my number, 876-877-1009, to set an appointment to talk to me.

Pastor