Friend’s girl tried to sleep with me

Dear Pastor,

I am living with my woman. The relationship is going well, but I cannot say that I totally trust her.

I believe that she trusts me, but I have enough experience to know that women cannot be totally trusted. I went abroad to stay with my friend and his girlfriend. He is my best friend. While he was gone to work, his woman put question to me. I was so surprised. I had to tell her that although she is beautiful, I could not allow myself to have sex with her and continue to sleep at her house. She said that that would be between the both of us.

The following day when my friend left for work, I got dressed and went to the library and spent all day there. I did not believe that his girlfriend was that type of girl. The thing about it is this - she lacks nothing. He has tried to make her happy. They have a lovely home and they have one son. I have not been back to my friend's house.

Next year, my friend and his wife are coming to Jamaica and they are expecting to be our house guests. I would not want them at our house. I am arranging to have them stay not far from us at an Airbnb. It is going to cost us, but I prefer that. I said it to my woman and she asked me why I would put my friend into financial debt. I told my woman that they are our guests, so I would pay for the cost for them to stay elsewhere, but I didn't tell her why.

F.W.

Dear F.W.,

You are a very strong man; you were able to resist the wife of your friend. Some men would have used the opportunity to have sex with her when she offered herself to him.

I have said before that a young man told me that he went to spend some time at the home of his friend, and his friend's wife approached him and demanded that he should have sex with her. He told her no and she insisted. She told him that if he did not have sex with her, she was going to complain to her husband and say that he tried to rape her. The following night she came back to him and demanded sex again. The poor man said he didn't know what to do, so he had sex with her again, but his conscience was bothering him. So he went out and he took the train and rode the train up and down. He slept and woke up, but he did not get off the train. That was how he spent his time in America.

So, it is not only men who approach women for sex; women do the same. I am sure that I have mentioned before about the young woman who pulled a gun and demanded that my friend should have sex with her. When he said no, she threatened to blow his brains out and I asked him what he did. He said he complied. But then I started to wonder, in a situation like that, how was he able to get an erection? But he said he had an erection. His life was in danger.

Pastor