Estranged wife wants me back

Dear Pastor,

I have always enjoyed reading your column, but in recent times I am more inclined to listen to you on Power 106, but I have never called.

I was married for three years, but my wife and I have broken up. We are not yet divorced, because she is hoping that we will get back together. But, Pastor, I don't want her back in my life. Before I left her, I promised her that I would not divulge the things that she did, so she need not fear that people would see her as a snake. I can say to you that she was not a good woman to me. We had a very bad relationship and I could not take it any more, so I walked away, leaving everything in the house. When the time comes, I will share my assets with her.

I made one stipulation before I left and that is, no man should live in the house. Any man she has should take her somewhere, but it was my father who helped me to purchase that house. It's hard to talk about my wife. I have not tried to find out whether she has another man. I have known many women and some have invited me out. At present, I am living with my sister and her husband. My sister has a dear friend who is interested in me, but I have not got involved with her. I confess to you that I have squeezed her breast and we have kissed, but that's the furthest we have gone.

I am paying rent to my sister and her husband. I am glad I have a good job and can afford to pay that rent. It is almost as if I am boarding, because the $100,000 I am giving them per month includes my food. My wife has two children and they are living in the house with her. Sometimes she calls me and asks me if I am lonely and want to see her. She has sent me pictures of herself, but it is too late now. I told her that I would pay for the divorce, but I am not getting back with her. She told me to give our separation some time, because she still believes that we can get back together.

P.H.

Dear P.H.,

You have not said what caused the breaking up with your wife, and since you have not declared it, I will not ask you either.

But you have behaved as a gentleman. You have walked away; you have left everything with her and you are willing to let her have her share of your assets, according to law. You are a good gentleman. From the tone of your letter, your wife wants you back. I am sure that your sister and her husband are trying to help you to deal with the break-up. They are only charging you $100, 000 per month to live in their home and everything like food is included.

Whatever your wife might have done, she deeply regrets losing you. But keep heart, and go and see a lawyer as soon as possible. If you want to continue to be a good man, stop fooling around the breasts of your sister's friend.

Pastor