My husband fears sex after having a heart attack

Dear Pastor,

My husband is 65 years old and he is a great partner. I can't see myself living without him.

He became ill a couple of years ago, and it was at that time I knew how his two children loved him. They did everything possible to help him. They took turns in spending time with him. My son would bring his computer and notes to the house while I was at work as a nurse. He was there to assist his father if he needed anything.

There were times when not only was he there alone with his father, but his sister came over with her young baby and they were all their taking care of their dad. Their father would tell them that he was alright, but they did not listen to him. Sometimes my daughter would come on weekends and cook for the entire family. I am so thankful for these children. My son-in-law is running the business for my husband. He is an accountant. My son told me that he is straight as an arrow, so we do not need to fret.

I did not tell you what my husband's problem was. He suffered a massive heart attack, but now that he has recovered, he is scared to have sex with me. The doctors have advised him that he need not be scared, but he is still worried. He accused me of being too aggressive. I laugh with him at times and remind him that I remember the days when he almost could not control himself. But he said he was always in control, I was the one who could not keep up. Well then, you see, he is the one now who cannot keep up. But I am concerned because he is only 65 and I am 55, and there are times that I feel that I really need to be loved.

What do you suggest that we can do? I am looking forward to hearing from you.

K.R.

Dear K.R.,

I am glad to hear that your husband's condition has greatly improved. The goodly gentleman is concerned because he remembers the days he was firing like a rocket.

But he is only 65 and his days are not done. With the good treatment that he has got from his children and you, and the advice from his doctors, he is going to continue to bounce back. So there is no good reason for him to fret. Perhaps what you should do is to have a quiet talk with his doctor and tell them that you would like to have an appointment with all three of you, to assure your husband that he need not worry.

You have wonderful children. You are blessed. You can handle yourself when you feel very sexy. I don't want to spell out what you should probably do. You are a grown woman. I will leave it there.

Pastor