Unsure about this American man

Dear Pastor,

I am 30 years old and I have been married, but my marriage did not work. So, right now I am going through a divorce. I went to the US and I met a man who has been married twice. He is 60 years old and he is divorced.

I went out with him almost every night while I was there for two weeks.

I would say that my heart went for this man. He showed me where he lived. But he did not take me there because he said his sister and her children were living there, and his sister's husband is a pastor.

I asked him why he could not keep a wife, and he said the two women he married were not faithful to him. So, he divorced them.

I was staying with my older sister and she told me that she would check him out for me. Since I have been back in Jamaica, he has called me almost every day.

I asked him for some funds but he has not sent me anything. My sister is not excited over him. She said that I am old enough to decide what I want to do. But after I am divorced, and I clear my head, I should not run into marriage too soon.

She also promised to check to find out whether the house the man showed me is his because too many of these men lie and they don't have anything.

What I am worried about is that this man has got divorced twice. Don't you think something might be wrong why he cannot keep a wife? Please, give me your opinion.

P.C.

Dear P.C.,

It is unfortunate that your marriage is not working and that you are on the verge of getting a divorce. I don't like divorce but I have said many times that it is a necessary evil.

But it is better for couples who can't live together in peace to go the route of divorce.

You went to the US and met another man and he has got divorced twice. He told you his side of the story, but you can't be sure he is telling you the truth.

So, I must caution you not to give this man the impression that you believe everything he says. Your sister has agreed to check him out, so to speak; allow her to do so.

You do not want to make a mistake by marrying a man who is much older than you, and especially someone you don't know much about.

He says he has a house. He showed you the place, but you don't know if he is speaking the truth. Your sister can find that out too. All I am saying is that you are to be careful and don't be in a hurry to get married again.

Pastor