Girlfriend’s daughter wants to sleep with me

Dear Pastor,

I don't know what you will have to say about this problem that I am having. I am 41 and divorced.

I have been living with a woman for the past six months. She has a daughter who is 20. This young girl has set her eyes on me and told me how attractive I am. She said she is jealous of her mother. I told her that her mother would be upset to know that she is talking to me like that, but she disagreed.

Her mother hardly wears clothes. Sometimes when we are alone, she is only in her underwear, and this girl does exactly like her mother. One day I was at home with her and she was walking around in her G-string. I came out of my bedroom and was shocked to see her in front of the television dressed like that. I suggested that she should put on shorts or a skirt. She asked me if I am not a man, and if I don't like what I see. She started to laugh at me. I was embarrassed and did not know what to do. She is very attractive. She is half Puerto Rican.

The only person I have told about her behaviour is my eldest brother, and he told me that I am a fool. He said that the girl is offering her 'thing', and instead of complaining, I should 'knock it' because that is what she wants. Whenever I am not working, I go to my brother's home and stay there until I know that her mother is back from work. This girl is planning to be at the house until after Thanksgiving. She is always looking at me. Do you think I should speak to her mother about her conduct? My brother said that he believes that she wants me, and maybe she wants me to give her money. I am afraid of trouble. I know that she is sexually active because I heard her talking to a friend and saying that she is longing to see him.

If she does not leave after Thanksgiving, I am going to leave her mother. She doesn't see me as her stepfather, she sees me as a man who would make love to her, and I cannot afford to do so. She may cry out and say I raped her. Please tell me what to do.

N.T.

Dear N.T.,

Your brother gave you bad advice. This young woman will get you into trouble if you were to become sexually involved with her.

Lots of women who live alone or with their husbands don't wear many clothes during the hot summer. Some females who live alone walk around in skimpy clothes. You did not expect your girlfriend's daughter to be almost nude while you were in the house. If she was there only with her mother, they may want to beat the heat by not wearing many clothes. But for this young girl to only have on G-strings is disrespectful to you. It appears that she is wilfully trying to get your attention. She may indeed cry rape if you do not yield to her. She may also accuse you of attempting to rape her if you ignore her. So you are in a dilemma.

I believed that I mentioned in my column recently about the complaint I received from a mother whose daughter left her home and got involved with a much older man. When she went to visit her daughter, she saw her and another young woman walking around naked. She was shocked and asked her daughter why she didn't have on any clothes. Her daughter proudly told her that that is what they do every day. Her man friend was an Englishman and he was having relations with these two young girls.

Resist every temptation from your girlfriend's daughter. In fact, you should tell her mother that you do not appreciate the way she carries herself in the house. Tell her mother that you are suggesting that she stay somewhere else or dress appropriately.

Pastor