Girlfriend can’t get enough sex from me

Dear Pastor,

I have three children with two different women. I am not married but I am living with a woman.

We do not have any children together. She has one son. She is begging me to get her pregnant. I am not interested in having more children. She told me that, if we were to have a child together, our relationship would grow better. She is Indian. Many times when we make love and I am exhausted, she is just ready to go on. I have to remind her that I am not young anymore. She gives me sour sop drink and sea moss, and every Sunday it is either roti and mutton or Irish potatoes. She said these things will keep me strong.

My children live with their mothers. My daughters like the woman I am living with. She likes when they come by. The girls have learned to make roti. We have very good relationships. I warned them not to get involved with men too soon. The girls have gone through college but the boy is not interested in going to college. I have bought him a truck, so he is doing deliveries for different companies. That is all he likes to do; he does not like books.

Sometimes I think that this woman I am living with would cheat because I do not have the stamina to keep up with her. She is a wonderful woman but she loves sex too much. How can I get her to slow down? Sometimes she wants me to have sex with her while she is seeing her period. I have done so a few times but I don't like it. But she said, when she is seeing her period, she feels very sexy. Is that normal? Please do not hold back; tell me what I should do.

S.D.

Dear S.D.,

I believe it is time for you to settle down, and you are aware of that too. This woman with whom you are living would like you to impregnate her.

She would marry you, but she wants a child from you. That is a decision that both of you would have to make. I can only caution you by saying that you should not have more children than you can adequately support. People have different things to say about Indians and sex. I consider some of the things they say as nonsense. However, you have one, so you should know whether these things are true. You want your woman to slow down; some men would wish that they have such an active woman in bed. Just do your best to keep your woman. Don't worry about whether she would cheat on you. Because she loves to make love to you and you find it difficult to cope, doesn't mean that she would cheat on you. So perish that thought.

Some women have admitted that, when they are seeing their menses, they feel very horny. Believe it or not, some take great delight in having sexual intercourse during that period. Medical doctors say it is not unhealthy for women to have sex during their period.

Pastor