Juggling two boyfriends at the same time

Dear Pastor,

I am 23 years old and I have been going out with two guys. Neither is aware that I am having a relationship with both of them.

Both give me money, for which I am really grateful. One is more free-handed than the other. But the one who is free-handed always asks me what I have done with the money he gave me. The other one does not ask me that question. I like the one who is free-handed more than the other one who doesn't ask, because he shows that he cares about how I spend his money. Sometimes I lie to the one who always asks me how I spend his money. He also asked me if I am saving anything that he gives to me, and I told him yes. I never used to save anything, but I started saving when I saw that he was serious about how I spend his money.

Sometimes he tells me that he has to go abroad and he would love to take me with him. I told him that I cannot travel as yet with him, so I have to wait. He thinks that I have a visa, but I don't. I have never been to the embassy. I only say that to him because I am playing for time. I want to give up one of these men, but I don't know which one to give up, because both of them are truly in love with me.

Pastor, I am in a real jam. The one who wants me to travel with him, his mother lives abroad and she is not doing well; he wants to go to see her. But he is always telling her about me, so she wants me to come and spend a couple of weeks with her. She is encouraging him to bring me with him. I told him I cannot find my passport. He spent one whole afternoon into the night with me searching for my passport, which I don't have. I even started to cry to convince him that somebody stole my passport, and told him that it could have been one of my friends who visited me. He believed that I was speaking the truth. He even asked one of the girls who I said I suspected of taking away the passport. But I have never had a passport in my life.

He told his mother that I could not take the trip and he told her why. What do you think that I should do?

P.P.

Dear P.P.,

You are a wicked liar. You should poke your head in a bag of ants. You are a disgrace.

From the beginning, all you needed from this man was his money and nothing else. How can you live with yourself, knowing that you are such a pathological liar? This man should not trust you, and he should not eat anything from you. You are a dangerous woman.

Pastor