My husband is not romantic enough

Dear Pastor,

I constantly read your column. My husband and I are both young. However, there are certain things I expect my husband to do as a man.

I honestly think that he's not romantic enough. He's a good man; however, I don't like the fact that he doesn't communicate with me much. He's not social enough. I have spoken with him many times about it, but it doesn't go far. He doesn't treat me badly; however, there are certain things I would like him to do, such as plan dates and purchase nice things for me, which he doesn't unless I ask him.

I don't like that; I would like him to surprise me with things.

A.B.

Dear A.B.,

I want you to know that you are a very fortunate woman. You say that your husband is not romantic.

I tell you, dear writer, if your husband is faithful to you, be grateful to Almighty God and cherish him. I could understand that at times you feel that he is not romantic enough. But that is something you can teach him, and it is something that both of you can learn together. There are times that you should take the initiative.

Perhaps he did not grow up knowing what to do when it comes to romance. He did not see his parents showing much affection, if any at all, so he did not learn. But you can go to the bookstore and purchase books about romance and affection, and how a husband and wife ought to treat each other. You can read these books together and put into practice what you read. I am not talking about anything that is vulgar. Books can teach about romance and sex and are not outrageous.

So I congratulate your husband and you for having a good marriage so far. Stay together and don't complain. And don't allow other women to lead you astray.

Pastor