My husband is worthless

Dear Pastor,

I am 35 years old and I am married with two children. My husband is not a good man. He has not been supporting his children.

When I got pregnant with the first child, he told me I was on my own because I knew that he did not want children. That was true, but I thought he would have changed his mind after getting me pregnant, but he has not. This man does not give me anything for the children. His sisters have assisted me, but not him. It was a mistake on my part to get pregnant for him the second time. He is always gambling.

I have a brother and he is always asking me why I am staying with this man. The amazing thing about my situation is that his children love him. I don't know what they have seen in him. His father gave me $20,000 to help with the children and I told him, and he asked me if I could give him $10,000 out of it. I did and he promised that he would give it back to me. However, instead of giving me back the money, he came back asking me for more. I was annoyed that I gave him the rest of it. I can't let his father know that his son got all the money.

I am looking for the opportunity to leave this country. The problem is that I would love to take my children with me. I would never leave them behind. I would also like to change their names, so I would like to know how to go about that.

This man is working. I don't know if he has a girlfriend, but no money is coming in from him. I pay rent and all the bills in this house and if I don't prepare dinner for him one day, it is war in this house.

Please give me your advice.

R.T.

Dear R.T.,

You mentioned the type of job that you do, but I won't divulge that. You have a very wicked husband.

He is irresponsible, but you have been a very good wife to him. I understand why you are contemplating leaving him and even changing the last name the children are carrying.

I would suggest that you go and discuss this matter with a lawyer. I don't want to say much more on this letter. Just see a lawyer and give me feedback.

Pastor