Fiancé took me away from another man

Dear Pastor,

I am having a problem. I am a 20-year-old receptionist and I meet different men every day because of where I work.

There is a particular man who is very respectful when he comes to the office. He calls me miss. He is always neatly dressed. One day he asked me for my cell number. I was reluctant in giving it to him but he promised that he would not give it to anybody else. He said he wanted to talk to me in private, so I gave it to him. He walked away, but before reaching the door, he turned back and asked me if I had a boyfriend. I told him that I had started dating and I had gone out on three dates. By the time I got home, I got a call from him. He told me how much he admires me and would like us to go out. I told him that would be fine. We made a date. When this man came to pick me up, he was, as usual, well-dressed. He took me to a hotel in New Kingston for dinner. Nobody has ever treated me like that.

When we finished having dinner, he suggested that he should take me home. I was surprised because it was still early. At the time I was living with my brother. He took me home to the apartment, kissed my hands and said good night. I thought to myself, where did this man come from.

Later on in the night we talked. He called me to let me know he got home. It took one year before this man asked me for a kiss. But that kiss was deadly because it was my first loving kiss and he did not want to let me go. My brother was not at home, so from the living room, we ended up into my bedroom and we locked the door. When my brother came home, he knew that I had a guest. I peeped out and told him that everything was all right.

I am now pregnant with this man's child and we are planning to be married on December 25. The young man with whom I went with on three dates told me that he will never forget me, but he wishes me well.

What I am saying to you, pastor, is that this man never forced me into anything. He wowed me. When we got in together, I did more of the pushing. Sex with this man is enjoyable. I did not even know I was ready to be married. He did not have to convince me. He pushed the right buttons and I could not resist him. I am a happy girl, very happy.

I.L

Dear I.L.,

I have observed that although you have given your age, you have not given the age of this man. I rather suspect that this man is much older than you. I say that because young men don't exercise such patience. This man invited you out and took you home very early and only kissed your hands. Which young man you know would exercise such tenderness?

At no time did he rush you for anything, but he knew what he was doing and what he was after.

You say that you are now pregnant. You allowed this champion to get you pregnant and both of you have fixed the date for your marriage. Your brother, with whom you live, must appreciate and love this man. I would like to hear from you again. Please, both of you, take care of yourselves and put God first in your lives.

Pastor