Reuniting with my first babyfather

Dear Pastor,

I have a problem. I have a son and a daughter. I used to live with their father, but he left me when the children were just three and five years old.

He went to America and called me and told me that he was not coming back because he met a woman that his folks knew and he would marry her. He said I should not fret because when he is straight, he will come back to Jamaica and marry me. I told him no, he should come home, but he did not. He got married over there. He sent money for his children, but it was not very often.

Things were very hard with me, so I got mixed up with a man in Kingston and he encouraged me to come and live with him; so I went. The man got me pregnant. He was very good to me. He took care of the other man's children. He even talked with their father on the telephone. He told my new babyfather that he still loves me and he is the one to be blamed because I did not do him anything wrong. When this man sent gifts to his children, he sent gifts for my new babyfather too. But my youngest child's father died, so my relatives helped me. He was building a house on leased land, so I am still living there and trying to finish the house.

The father of my two older children has since divorced his wife and is telling me that he wants to come to Jamaica and marry me, so I should not get mixed up with any other man. He wants us to be married early next year. I am like a young girl getting excited. If his family didn't lead him astray, we would have been married already. I told my man that he has to accept my youngest child as his, because the man who died accepted his children as his very own, and he has agreed to do so. They are not little any more; they are grown. But everybody is living at home with me.

Would you be available to do our wedding? Please let me know.

E.B.

Dear E.B.,

I am glad for you. Your wedding is something to look forward to. I trust that this man will keep his word and marry you.

Don't give yourselves in any big expense. Plan a very simple wedding and get married. The children's education is paramount. You know, I should say something about the man you are going to marry. He knew that he made stupid decisions when he listened to his relatives and got married to someone living abroad. So when you got involved with another man, he did not hold that against you and he became a friend of the man; that was good. I will not tell the public what caused the death of your third child's father, but may his soul rest in peace.

When you confirm the date of your wedding, you may contact my office and make an arrangement with my secretary to meet with us. You may contact us at 876-929-1667 or 876-877-1009. I will do my best to assist you.

Pastor