I want to have sex every day

Dear Pastor,

I am 25 and I am having a problem. I have a boyfriend who is 31 and a Christian. I am not a Christian, but because of him, I started to attend church.

One Friday afternoon, I was at home alone and I called him and told him I would love to see him, so I invited him over. I also told him to buy me some food when he was coming. He asked me what I needed and I told him some chicken. I live with my sister, who was out with her fiance. She called me and told me she was not coming back for the night, so I had the place for myself. When my boyfriend came, he asked for my sister and I told him I was alone. We ate and chatted and watched television. Then I told my boyfriend that I wanted him to "give me a service". He asked me what I meant and I told him that I wanted to make love to him. He told me he had not done that for a long time and that it is a sin for unmarried people to have sex.

We hugged each other, and I started to play with him. He responded and we had sex on the floor. I did not want to use the bed because my sister and I share that bed. I had sex with this man and he did not have any protection. After he discharged in me, he said, "Look what you have caused me to do." It is a problem that I do have. I love to have sex. I feel for sex every day. I told my close friends, and some say it is normal to feel that way. Some say that they feel that way regularly, but not every day. So I am asking you whether it is normal for a female to want to have sex every day.

My boyfriend and I only had sex once. But whenever we talk on the phone at nights, I always tell him that we should consider getting married, because my body needs him and I don't know what to do. Please give me your advice.

F.P.

Dear F.P.,

It is not abnormal for some women to want sex every day. In fact, there are some men who are like that also.

Some couples do have sex daily. I have a friend who told me that his wife would never sleep unless he has sex with her every night. After they have made love, she falls asleep. I have mentioned this in my column before. I knew a man who could not keep up with his wife, because she demanded sex every night. They came to see me and while he was telling me the situation, she thought it was strange that he would complain to me about her desires. She admitted that is how she is. Whenever he told her he was tired, she would chase him all over the house until he gave in. This woman even broke up several pieces of furniture in the house when she couldn't have her own way.

I can only say to you, try and get this man that you are in love with to marry you. As time goes on, your sexual desire may subside as he tries to meet your sexual needs.

Pastor