Wild dad got two sisters pregnant

Dear Pastor,

I am writing to you about a family matter. I have a sister, we are not twins but we live like twins. We have the same father but not the same mother. I am six months older than her. When my mother was pregnant with me, another woman was pregnant with my sister. My father was a cut-stone builder and he got involved with a woman who used to cut stones for the builders.

My mother was a seamstress. My mother was very quiet and my father was living with her. People used to tell my mother that my father and the other woman were friends. My father said they were only working together.

I was told that when I was born, the midwife who delivered me told my mother that she was expecting to deliver another child for my father in a few months' time. That is how my mother started to believe that the child that the woman was carrying was my father's.

When I was born, my father admitted to my mother that the child is really his. This child and I grew up like sisters. My mother sewed the same type of clothes for the both of us. But my father loved me more.

My sister's mother found another man and that man accused her of still having a relationship with my father. My father said that it was not true. One day, after my father came home from work and had his dinner, bathe and left the house, my mother trailed him; he ended up at another woman's yard. The house he went to was where my sister's aunt lived.

My father couldn't explain why he was going there. This woman got pregnant, too, and people stated to say that it was my father's child. The woman had the baby and went to live abroad. My relatives blame my mother for causing her to leave.

Pastor, what did my mother do wrong? Do you see that she did anything wrong? No one knows where abroad that woman went to live, but I would want to know my brother. I don't have any information to give to you, but I will write to you again.

My father says let bygones be bygones.

N.G.

Dear N.G,

I am sorry that I can't help you, but you didn't ask me for help. Your father was a wild man and women loved him. He had you and another sister with two different women, and the third woman was your sister's aunt.

He has not admitted that the woman's son is his son also. You would like to know this young man; you may never get to know him. And your father is not interested in knowing him, either. That's why he can causally say 'let bygones be bygones'.

However, it is likely that your sister's mother would have an idea where the mother is, and perhaps one day she will divulge that to you or to your sister.

Pastor