I think he is being unfaithful

Dear Pastor,

I am a 20-year-old female, and my boyfriend is 25 years old. I am having problems with him because I believe that he is unfaithful to me. He is always so busy. I prepare for him, and when he comes, he just wants to pull me into bed, do his thing, and then leave.

When I met him, he promised that he would be true to me and that I wouldn't have to worry. He got me pregnant, but I did not carry the pregnancy. It is very painful to talk about it. But one of these days, I would like to sit with you and talk, and I would like him to be there with me.

Pastor, this man doesn't have any money saved. I found out after the relationship was about seven months old. Now, when I try to discuss savings with him, he tells me I am too young to worry myself about these things. The only thing he has in his name is an old car. I am worried about him.

I want a man who would make time for me and work with me and we can build a life together. I want to be happy. And this man is causing me to think about looking for another man in my life. And he is so jealous. Whenever we are together and my phone rings, he wants to know who is calling me.

December gone, he promised to come for me and take me out on Old Year's night. I got dressed, but he never came. I called him many times, and he didn't answer his phone. In fact, it was turned off. So that tells me that he was with another woman.

I saw him on January 2, and he said that his car had broken down, so he took off his phone and went to bed. I asked him why he didn't borrow a phone and call me, and he said he was too angry, so he didn't want to see me at that time.

H.R.

Dear H.R.,

This man is not even a good liar. And if both of you were to come and see me, I would tell him the truth. He thinks that you are a fool, and perhaps it is time for you, indeed, to consider moving on. A man cannot be too busy to see his woman. Regardless of what he has to do, she has to be in his plans.

He knows you are a good woman, so what is he jealous about? He is using himself to judge you. It is a very foolish excuse he gave to you for not coming to be with you on the last day of the year. You know better.

Do not get involved with another man while both of you are going together. Make a clean break with him before you start dating another man.

I wish you well.

Pastor