Older woman has brainwashed my son

Dear Pastor,

I am writing to you about my son. He is 21 years old and he is working. He goes to work and he comes home. He is on the phone from the time he reaches home, chatting with a big woman.

I used to wonder what he and this woman were chatting about for so many hours.

I found out that this woman is his girlfriend. This woman has three children and is twice his age. I asked him if he couldn't find a younger girl and he said age is just a number.

When he was 18, he used to have a girlfriend and another man took the girl away from him. I don't know what he has seen in this big woman, but nowadays he doesn't have any money at all.

He gives all his money to her. Whenever we don't see him, he is at the woman's house.

I believe that they should have a law that women should not go with these young boys. He has an account and he had my name in it. I had a look at the account recently and I noticed that he is not putting anything in it.

GIVING HER MONEY

He is giving the money to this woman. His father told me I should leave him alone, but how can I leave my son alone when I know this woman will wreck him? She is not working, so I suspect he takes his money and gives her to pay rent.

One Sunday morning, we were getting ready to go to church and this woman called him to tell him that her cooking gas was finished. He didn't go to church that day.

He borrowed the car after dropping us at church and went to buy gas for her. When I got back home after church, I cursed him. His father was not happy with the way I spoke to him.

Pastor, tell me what I can do to put sense in my son's head so that he would leave this woman. I am very distressed.

E.M.

Dear E.M.,

From what you said, this woman has your son hooked. He has fallen in love with her, and it is not going to be easy for him to turn away from her.

He is a young man and this woman has years of experience in dealing with men. She knows what to tell him and to do to him to turn his head towards her.

All the good things you told him about how to conduct himself have gone through the window. Can you imagine the things she tells your son when they are on the phone for hours?

You are angry with his father because he has told you to leave the young man alone. I think what your husband is telling you is that it doesn't make sense to fuss with your son, because to fuss with him would serve to harden his heart.

He has to make his own mistakes. Even if this woman would 'eat him out', that would be his loss. Your son means everything to this woman. The guy is in love.

When her gas went out, she called on her man and he answered the call. He is the man in her yard.

I am sorry that I have to tell you the truth. You are not helping your son by cursing him over this woman. I have to agree with his father. Leave him alone.

Perhaps the time will come when he will wake up. I hope it will not be too late. Now, don't get mad at me as you did to your husband.

Pastor