This woman wants to bring her sister on our date

Dear Pastor,

I am 22 years old and I have started a relationship with a young woman who will be 20 in December.

Everything was going well, and we planned to go out together for the first time about four weeks ago. She asked me if she could take her sister with us and I told her it was no problem. They are living together. I picked them up and we had a very nice dinner. The only problem is, we could not have a romantic conversation because her sister was with us. I dropped them home, but I was fuming.

The following day, I called her and asked why her sister had to come with us. She said her sister doesn't have anybody to take her out, like a boyfriend, so she did not want to leave her alone. I asked her when we were going to talk and she said we could talk on the phone. We spoke for about an hour and I told her that I like her and we should go out again, but this time it would be a date for just the both of us; her sister should not be there. This young lady told me that she would think about it. Two weeks passed, so I called her again and asked her about us going out and she said that she thought about it, but she did not know me enough to trust me and to be alone with me. But if her sister can come with us until she gets to know me better, we can go out.

She is a lovely person and I am getting to love her more and more, but I do not see why we cannot go out alone, as we are adults. I am asking you for your advice.

H.D.

Dear H.D.,

This young lady wants her younger sister to be her chaperone. Generally, a chaperone is one who is older and she does not make herself very visible in certain situations; but she is there to watch over things.

The lady you admire and went out with took her sister, and she is willing to go out with you again if you allow her sister to accompany her for a second time. You consider that to be nonsense. But I would say to you, young man, if you are wise, you would be patient and allow this woman's sister to go with you. You have not yet won the heart of this woman. You have not yet won her trust, so why should you object? Be wise, young man, be wise. Have patience, young man, have patience.

The woman is testing you and so far you have failed the test. It would be better for you to say to this woman, "Let your sister come with us," and when you get to the place, you ask her sister to excuse herself because you would like to speak to your lady alone. She will still be seeing both of you, but she will not be hearing what you both are talking about. I believe my suggestion will work, so use common sense, young man. I repeat, use common sense.

Pastor