Caregiver wants to take me for a ride

Dear Pastor,

I am 75 years old and I am living on my own. This is not the way I wanted my life to turn out, but this is how it is.

I have my own house and I have a caregiver. She is the one who is responsible for taking care of me because I am not very well. My children visit me every day, and they see to it that I am in good shape. They pay my caregiver very well. I get the best treatment. My caregiver is married and I have given her permission to invite her husband and her children to stay here whenever she feels like it. They are like my family. My children love my caregiver's children, and they even assist them by buying uniform and books for them.

I have a secret I must tell you. This woman has me very concerned because recently she offered herself to me. I was shocked. She says she has been admiring me and I have been so kind to her. She said my family is doing things for her that her husband has never done. This is a real test of my faith. She suggested that we could have an affair. I did not think that I should dismiss her, but now I believe that she should go.

I am in a wheelchair, so she does everything for me, including giving me my daily bath. These days, she touches me inappropriately. I told her that she would get me into trouble. She said the only trouble I will get into, is if I tell anybody that she is touching my private parts. I asked her if her husband is not satisfying her and she said that has nothing to do with the both of us. I told her that I cannot do what she wants me to do, and she said if I don't do it, somebody else will.

Do you think that I should tell my children what I am experiencing with this woman? I can hear them cursing her and I do not want that to happen, because she has been a great help to me. She is only 41 years old.

Please give me your suggestion.

C.

Dear C.,

Have you ever considered that your caregiver's husband might be encouraging his wife to have an affair with you for monetary reasons? They may see you as someone who is financially stable and who can assist them financially beyond what you are doing right now. Some men push their women to become involved with men who they believe can give them as much financial assistance as possible.

I think you should warn her to stop what she is doing. I do not believe this woman is in love with you, she is probably in love with your money. Tell her that you would have to report her to your children and ask her not to come back. In other words, tell her you are going to fire her.

Pastor