Caught my daughter having sex on the floor

Dear Pastor,

I write to you for your advice. I have two daughters, both of them are teenagers.

One listens to me and the other does not. I have been talking to these girls and telling them that they should conduct themselves like ladies. I found out recently that the one who is always ignoring me is pregnant. She is 17 years old, and her boyfriend is the same age. I talked to the boy's parents and his mother said that they are teenagers and I should try and control my daughters because boys will be boys. I didn't have any argument with her because I know that my daughter is rude and bad.

I came home one day and saw my daughter on the floor having sex. I was so shocked that I went into the kitchen and drew my cutlass. My daughter cried out for help and the boy stood there in the nude, with his penis as stiff as a rod, saying, "Duh mama, I am sorry." I was not going to hurt him, but I told him that they should not be having sex in my house. He started to blame my daughter. Now the girl has not seen her period for three months, and the doctor has confirmed that she is pregnant. But it is not for the boy I caught her having sex with; it is for the other boy whose mother embarrassed me by telling me I should learn to control my daughters.

This boy can't help himself much less to help a girl who he got pregnant. My daughters' father doesn't have anything to do with them, but I called him and told him that she is pregnant. He said that she is on her own. He said he doesn't have anything to give her. Now that my daughter is pregnant, I spoke to the boy's mother again and she said that her son told her that my daughter had other boyfriends and he is not sure that he is the one who got her pregnant. But she said that if the child is his, she will play her part in assisting my daughter with the baby.

I don't earn much. I just do some buying and selling. Where we are, I pay rent. When the boy's mother told me that he said my daughter had other guys, I broke down and cried because I knew she was talking the truth. I will not disgrace her, but as soon as she is 18, she has to go. What advice can you give me?

C.L.

Dear C.L.,

Parents always warn children by telling them that if they can't listen, they will feel.

Your daughter has embarrassed herself and you. But she is still your daughter, and I would encourage you to do your very best to help her. She has shamed you by having sex in your house, on the floor. I know I don't have to encourage you to do your best to help her. She is young and naive. Imagine that a young man could say that your daughter was having sex with different men, so he was not sure he was the one who impregnated her. You can always find out after the child is born whether this young man is the biological father by doing a DNA test.

Dear lady, keep courage. Your daughter will learn the hard way.

Pastor