Boyfriend had sex with me and my sister

Dear Pastor,

My sister and I lost our virginity about the same time to my boyfriend. It was not planned that way.

She and I slept on the same bed and my boyfriend and I were fooling around. I heard when my sister said "No" to him, and I asked what was happening. She said, "It's your man who just [had sex with] me." He entered her from the back and from that time, I have never trusted my sister again. If she did not want to have sex with my boyfriend, it couldn't have happened. I can never forgive my sister for having sex with my boyfriend.

My boyfriend says I should not hold anything against my sister because he was the one who pushed his penis inside her without asking her anything. I told him that she could have said no, so I blamed her. I love this sister very much, but I don't like the thought of her having sex with my boyfriend. That cannot be right. What if he had got her pregnant? I wouldn't have had anything to do with either of them.

What comments do you have?

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Dear Writer,

Your sister and you shouldn't be sleeping on the same bed. The young man saw it as an opportunity to have sex with both of you and he did. Some men don't have good morals. I hope that you will be able to forgive your sister for her carelessness. Forgive your sister; your boyfriend took advantage of her.

Pastor