DEAD HUSBAND HAD SEX WITH ME

Dear Pastor,

I am 42 and I was married, but my husband has died. I used to hear that when a man dies, his widow should wear underwear of a certain colour.

But as a Christian, I did not believe these things. The day he died, my grandmother called me and asked me if I was prepared for his death and I told her I knew he was going to die. She said that is not what she meant. She told me that I should buy red panties and wash myself with a certain type of soap because my husband was a jealous man, so I should prepare for him. I told my mother that it was too late in the evening to send for those things, so I would prepare and she said she hoped so.

I didn't do anything about it. We had his nine night and everything went well. We took his body to rural Jamaica and had the service in a church where he grew up. After 40 days, this man visited his house. I could feel his presence. Anyhow, I prayed and went to bed. Later on in the night, I could feel him on me, but I couldn't wake up. But when I woke up in the morning, I knew he had molested me. I was very wet and my underwear was pulled down. I was very surprised.

I went back to see my grandmother and I told her my experience and she cursed me and told me that I should have listened to her. She said my dead husband is going to come back unless I protect myself against him because he doesn't want any other man to get me. She said he is protecting what is his. She also told me to get rid of the bed we were sleeping on because he was the one who bought it. This is a lovely king-size bed, why should I chop it up?

My husband and I bought the house, so what would I do with it? I am confused. I want to get rid of my husband. I have bought incense and started to burn it, but I heard that that is not enough to get rid of this one. I used to treat my husband very well. I don't have any complaints about my husband because he treated me well too. I would love to hear from you.

V.S.

Dear V.S.,

Your husband is dead. You know for sure that he is dead. You took his body to rural Jamaica and after the service, you witnessed them bury him.

So how can he come now and molest you? Having asked these questions, I know that some people say that dead men harass the women they loved, therefore, the women should protect themselves. So I suppose that is why your granny was telling you that you should buy underwear with certain colours because your husband may come around and have sex with you while you are asleep. You can now say that he did. But how can that be and how can wearing certain colours protect you?

The dead, according to the Bible, have no power. So, what is going on here? I don't want you to think that you are not an intelligent woman, but I am wondering whether you were in your very deep sleep and you had a dream that your husband was around. I would suggest that you call a few sisters from your church and pray about this matter. This cannot be allowed to go on. The very bed in which you are sleeping, your grandmother says you should get rid of it. I cannot support that. So you are going to have to exercise faith in God and ask him to get rid of your husband.

Demand that his spirit goes back to where it came from.

Pastor