I can’t get any girl

Dear Pastor

I am 21 years old and I have friends that I hang out with. We all go to different places and we have fun. They find it very easy to pick up girls. In fact, females are always flocking them. However, I have not been so lucky, as many times I am left standing alone.

I do not attract girls and I do not understand why I don't. I am smarter than some of my friends. We all make good money. Many of the girls we hang out with are also working and they are not necessarily looking for money. They just want to have a good time.

Recently, I met a girl and I ask her how much she would take from me for us to have a good time, and she said she does not charge for that. She said that I can get her for free, but if I want her another time, I have to be able to do it right. I took her to a place and we spent two hours there before I took her home. When we were separating she told me that I shouldn't call her back. I felt ashamed. I told one of my friends what happened and he said I had the chance to take this girl to the mountain top and I failed, but I shouldn't give up.

I masturbate every night. Do you think that it is good for a man to masturbate? I think about this girl every time I am masturbating. I was told that if I continue to masturbate, it would affect the relationship with my wife when I get married. I would really like to stop masturbating, but I can't because I always want to have sex.

F.S

Dear F.S.,

Some guys find it very difficult in finding women. Some guys have no personality at all. Women are attracted to men who are neat. Yet, there are other women who would go with men who have their underpants under their buttocks. They like men who are rough, who do not comb their hair, men who call them gyal, and who tell them that they would do terrible things to them, sexually.

Your friends find it easy to get girls. Maybe they know how to dance and you don't. But your time will come. Continue to be yourself and a good woman will come your way. I cannot encourage you to go with prostitutes. Some prostitutes sell sex to different men and you might expose yourself to women are carrying dangerous diseases. So don't take anybody else to hotel. Put yourself together well and you would attract a woman. It may take a while, but you may find someone.

Pastor