Counsellor suggests sex every night

March 01, 2024

Dear Pastor,

I am a recently married 20-year-old woman. My husband and I are Christians. I have been a Christian from I was 14 years old. My husband became a Christian three years ago and we fell in love and decided to get married.

According to him, he used to run road, but when he approached me, I told him that although I liked him he would have to give up that lifestyle. It did not take him a long time to show me that he did not want to lose me.

We went to see a seasoned counsellor and we discussed everything. He was like a father to us. My husband respected him. He advised us not to start having children soon after we got married. He told us that we should learn to adjust to each other and to enjoy each other before having to deal with children. We talked about sexual positions. I was a little embarrassed when he raised the matter of oral sex. I asked him if a woman has to do that and he told me I should ask my husband about that. He advised us what books we should read.

After doing few sessions with the family counsellor, I told my husband that we should seek help from another counsellor. He told me I can go without him, so I changed my mind and went back to the seasoned counsellor.

We asked how often we should have sex and he said to us, we should do it every night unless I was seeing my menses. We eventually get married and I am glad that we spent time in sessions with that family counsellor. We urge all young couples to make sure they spend time learning about each other before they are married.


Dear F.L.,

I am glad you are happily married. I am also happy that you listen to the suggestions of your counsellor. I want to wish your husband and yourself many happy years together. Continue to respect each other. Communication, respect and love are criteria for a good relationship.

Now please learn to save and to invest. Always put away something for the rainy day, so to speak.


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