Sister’s babyfathertrying to sleep with me

Dear Pastor,

I am in my early 40s and I am in a very embarrassing problem. I am staying with my younger sister.

I came here just to spend two weeks with her, because she has a baby and was not feeling well. So I asked my husband if he would allow me to go and stay with her for a little while and he agreed. Her babyfather has been working day and night to meet their bills. My sister is such a nice girl, she shouldn't be with this man. Since I have been here, he has made a pass at me. I asked him if he cannot see that I am a big woman, and I would not be in my sister's house and go to bed with her man. He said that even before my sister had the baby, they were not having sex. He said nothing would be wrong if I had sex with him because my sister would not know. I know that I can't tell my husband that this man has made a pass at me. He would tell me to come home immediately. I wouldn't tell my sister either, because I know that he would deny approaching me

When he told me that he and my sister were not having sex for months, I told him that he should go out and buy it. I know that it has nothing to do with that, because when I came to visit them before she was pregnant, he did the same thing. At that time, he touched me on my bottom and I told him to cut it out. My sister should not have another child with him. I have three children, and I respect my husband. Even if I was tempted to go with another man, I would not do so in his house. This man has no class. He did not even tell me that he was sorry for trying to get me to go to bed with him. He only told me that I should not make any 'noise' about it.

I try my best not to be around him at all, but the place is small; it only has two bedrooms. I don't want to spend more than another week in this place. My husband calls me every night and asks me if everything is alright and I tell him yes. Sometimes I am tempted to tell him about this out-of-order boy. Do you think I should let him know that the guy is making passes at me?

P.T.

Dear P.T.,

You are with your sister because she is not physically well. You are able to protect yourself from her immoral boyfriend and you have been able to defend yourself.

Your sister's boyfriend has not succeeded in getting you to go to bed with him. You know that if you were to tell your husband that this man was approaching you for sex, he would tell you to come home immediately, and you need to spend more time with your sister. So I would say to you, try your best to remain calm. Don't let your husband know that you are not very happy at your sister's house.

Please don't tell your sister what you have to face with her boyfriend.

Pastor